My loving wife passed this week and I was wondering for those who have experienced this night mare does it get any easier with time. I have not eaten in four days just drinking Boost & water.She took care of all finances and I have been chasing my tail trying to keep up. Work helps but week ends are tough. Life sucks for me but I will not let it drag me in to the rabbit hole.Thanks for your response.

If you do not have family to help you get on top of finances, etc., look for aid at a local Senior Center if you are old enough. Time heals a lot of things, but not all.

Very sorry for your loss!!

I cannot fathom the thought of loosing mine. I'm sure time will help but I doubt that it will ever completely heal the pain.

So sorry for your loss.

Keep your head up.

So sorry to hear that. There are advocates in most communities to help with such things to get you back on your feet.

Take things one at a time, slowly. Let yourself grieve and ask family for all the help they can give. Do not make any major changes until you feel more normal. I am sorry for your loss.

Gary, I am so sorry for your huge loss. Please check for a support group at a local church or caring Hospital etc. I will pray for you right know. Chuck

I have no answers, but GOD does!

Prayers sent from OKC. John

So sorry to hear. Seek help. Time may not completely heal but it will make things easier. Ken

Sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers. Lean on God, only he can bring the comfort you need.

Prayers up...meanwhile?...you have us if that's of any consolation.

The old cliche...

"Don't cry because it's over...Smile because it happened"

Has helped me often.

Prayers sent. Mentioned earlier, LEAN ON GOD!.

I'll keep you in my prayers brother....be strong.

I'm so sorry . I lost my wife carol 7 years ago . It still sucks and hurts So bad . People say time will heal . Nope ! You will find acceptance and your life will never be the same . Sorry for the harsh words . Archery kept me going. Stronger the love the deeper the Hurt .

Hang in there brother, sorry for your loss!

Really, Really sorry to hear about her passing and prayers sent! Chuck

No experience with this, but prayers for you. Sorry for your loss.

So sorry. I'll be praying for you.

So Sorry Gary. :-(

I have no words.

God Bless.

Rick

My sympathies.

So sorry. I will pray for your peace. Godbless brother.

You keep saying "It won't drag me down the rabbit hole" and we'll keep saying prayers. That's a good start. Blessings and comfort to you.

Stay strong, seek some help, eat and do the best you can. You have to move forward. Friends, family, church, what ever it takes. So sorry for your loss, again be strong.

Keep busy.

Getting a handle on your finances will help occupy your mind.

bank should be a big help in getting things in order. If there are areas where they can't help, they can probably point you in the right direction to find someone who can.

Sorry for your loss. I would be in the same situation.

So sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss. Will pray for you.

Hey Gary, so sorry for your loss. I almost lost my wife a year and a half ago. She had a heart attack. I don't know what I would have done if she didn't pull through. My thoughts and prayers are with you brother.

My thoughts and prayers are with you!

So sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you are going through. Keep your head up and on straight :-) JF

Sorry for your loss, will pray for you.

don't know what to say, other than I willl send prayers

so sorry for your loss,time helps, but not for everyone,all you can do is keep her memory alive and try to get some help through community or friends,take good care,my very best wishes to you sir

That's very rough. Sorry for your loss. Prayers sent.

Gary, losing your life partner is rough, hang in there and do like Mr. Hatfield suggested and if you feel like you are slipping a bit just PM me and I will try to help.

Sorry for your loss. My best friend lost his precious bride last month and he is drifting trying to find an anchor. Retired Marine who relied on his wife, as do all Marines, and now he has to assume her duties. Military wives do more than we ever expected. He gets thru by coming to then archery shop and just talking about things. I guess we are part of his anchor. You will find one....

I'm truly sorry for your loss. Seek solace in family and God. My prayers go out to you.

Gary; so sorry! Losing a loved one is very tough. Hang in there and take One day at a time. Prayers sent for strength and healing during this time.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Lean on the Lord is the only advice I have. God Bless

So very sorry for your lost. I can't fathom how you feel.

So sorry to hear of your loss. I can't fathom how you feel. My wife is still around but my mother is gone. Being an only child made it really hard with everything especially the bills. My wife and kids were a big help but some things I had to do myself. I know this probably isn't any help.

For those who gave there time to pray for my wife and myself thank you.WE out lived most of our family and it swells my heart to know that people on the wall care.God Bless you all and thanks for the advice. I really needed that.

See Jim Davis post. Time does heal. Dont seek solace, get on with life. Give thanks for everything.

So sorry to hear you lost your wife. Prayers things get easier for you

Sorry, as Larry said, time does heal...but it takes time.

So sorry for you, my sympathies and prayers to you and your family.

My deepest sympathies to you and yours! Can't imagine how difficult loosing someone so close and dear can be, but trust in your Lord and prayers up from Central TX! Wyatt

Tough Deal Sir...My Condolences...4finger

Unimaginable. Hopefully time will heal.

Deepest sympathies my friend.

Prayers to you at this time of great sorrow JimH

I cannot begin to fathom how you feel, I’m so sorry, you have my sincerest sympathy. Hopefully you have family members to help support you at this time. If not, your church, if that applies. You need to have support of some sort to help you through this transition. When my Dad died, neighbors came around and just visited with my Mom. My Dad was in the Typographers Union, he was a printer. They helped my Mom. Finally my Mom joined a Widow/Widowers group at our church. She was with others who were going through the same thing, That helped her the most. Will keep you in our prayers.

Sorry for your loss Brother. Bible tells us that there is a time for all things. Have no doubt that it will take awhile but healing is one of them. For now you are wrapped in your sorrows but remember your good times with her.

Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you are sent.

I am so sorry. Eternal be her memory. Prayers sent. George

Sorry for your loss. Prayers sent from WV.

Sorry about your loss. It made be hard for you but you must reach out for help. I know some guys may think it’s not the manly thing to do but you must take care of yourself. Yes archery can help keep your mind busy. When my brother-in-law lost his wife he took up pottery making. Meet his 2nd wife that way.

So sorry for your loss. Prayers for God's comfort for you during this hard time.

Sorry for your loss

Church & relatives- seriously, you need company at this time; a spiritual community of some sort is essential! - this universal sorrow is part of our human condition- you need people right now, so sorry for your loss. Prayers and best wishes for you-

Sorry for your loss . Prayers sent from Michigan

My sincerest condolences on your loss. I can't image the pain and loss you are experiencing.

Prayers from wv

There are no words. I can't image how difficult this is for you. Please no that we care for you and will keep you in our prayers. May God be with you and ease your pain.

I am sorry for your loss. I will pray for you right now. Go read proverbs 3:5&6. Very applicable here.

I have no answers for your but I pray you heal and can continue a fulfilling life...I fear the day that the love of my life may leave before me. I'd be lost that's for sure...I pray for you friend

My sincerest condolences. I pray my Lord Jesus will bless you with strength and comfort in your hour of loss

Condolences. It's the hardest thing in life.

So sorry to hear of your loss. Yes I lost my wife of 38 yrs 2yr ago. Was worst time of my life but yes time does heal and without my Lord not sure what I would have done. feel free to pm me anytime I will help any way I can.

I have no way of imagining what you’re going through, but I do know that if I were to lose my wife, I would be in the exact same boat. I do hope that you will get whatever help that you need, because you know darn well that she would want you to keep on going, and that she would want you to enjoy every day that you have left with us.

Hang in, keep the faith, and please do find whatever help you need to get you through this. Plenty of us will be thinking of you. God bless…

Sorry for your loss. May her memory shine as bright as Sirius, the brightest star in the night sky.

Joe

If I lost my darling wife I would try to keep this thought in the foreground......"What would she want me to do and how would she want me to act, and If I was the one who had passed, how would I want her to react ???" No one ever said losing a loved one was easy but my mom always said...." No matter the heartache, I will never give up on my Jesus". We are a family of strong faith but still struggle for answers from time to time.I spoke at a friends funeral recently and used the thought that "Memories are priceless" !! Sawtooth mentioned Proverbs 3: 5&6....He is right on the money !!!! If you have faith, do not say goodbye to you wife....say "We'll be together again down the road"....and mean it !!!!!!! Whitie

So sorry for your loss —- sending prayers.....

I'm very saddened to hear this news. I lost my wife 22 months again and it's still a very raw feeling. You need to understand that there is no time limit on grief nor a learning curve on the sorrow you feel. I made my wife a promise that I would be okay, and that helps see me thru each and every day. It will get better, although it might not seem like it now. If you need help I strongly recommend Hospice Services. They were remarkable. Feel free to contact me at any time if you'd like. My prayers are lifted for you. Lance

Very sorry for your loss. Prayers sent.

Sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss Gary. Prayers sent. I hope you find peace.

Allen

Prayers sent and God be with you.

Prayers sent

I am sorry for your loss and hope time heals the void to somehow brings a sense of completeness again. I wish you well and will offer prayers for you.

So sorry for your loss. Prayers are going up, hopefully to give you strength for the days ahead.

Not the death of a spouse, but an unwanted, unexpected, sudden divorce. Lots of great advice already on here. Lean on God. I wouldn’t have made it through without him. If you haven’t got one, establish community. Be it church, an archery club, work friends, whatever. Having someone to talk to is essential. It’s ok to grieve. Can’t get to the top of a mountain without passing through the valley. Old cliche but a good one. Find ways to fill the void. Hobbies, activities, being with friends. That can be overdone, but don’t sit around alone. You may not get over it, but you can get through it.

Thoughts and prayers

Gary just prayed for you try to focus on the good memories and surround yourself with people you love hold on to God and get closer to him he is our comforter and strength

So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

My condolences.

Sorry for your loss.

I am very sorry to hear of your loss.

I understand completely, I lost my wife to cancer 4 years ago, a second marriage for both of us, we got it right the second time and were together for 30 years.

Getting up in the morning to an empty house was and still is the worst for me.

I am 70, have some health problems and although I go out on an occasional date I doubt if I will get in a serious relationship in the future.

You will never get over your loss but will grow to accept it as a part of life. Give yourself a year of recovering to clear your head then get out socially some. There are many widowed ladies out there who are in the same boat as yourself and understand.

Things will never be the same but you will recover. There will always be an empty spot in your heart but like any other scar on your body you you will notice it less and less over time.

I find great joy in doing for others, I also found that exercise, walking and regular gym attendance takes the edge off. Interact with people every chance you get, don't become a recluse.

During the very dark times think about all the people who love you and how much they need you. During these times cry your eyes out until you just can't cry anymore, letting it out is the best stress reliever on the planet.

I know what you are going through, I really do.

Sorry for your loss you are in our prayers.

My deepest sympathies go out to you. Sorry for your loss. These guys are right about being around others, it really does help even when you feel like crawling under the world. Best of luck in your healing, I hope the day comes soon that the good memories outweigh the sadness. Stay strong.

My sympathies are with you. Some very good advice from the guys on here.

Sorry for your loss, like others have said try and keep busy.

So sorry to hear of your loos, hang in there sir.

Sorry for your loss.

Prayers from my house. So sorry for your loss.

This thread has some painful spots but a lot of encouragement. I feel saddened for you Gary. You are experiencing a pain that most of us dread. I am praying for you now that you might find comfort and security. I offer my sincere condolences.

Sorry for your lost. It will take time but you will be alright.

Very sorry for your loss!

Same here very sorry for your loss. Lean on family and friends

Man that sucks. Sorry about your loss. Keep your head up. And only dwell on the good times you have had.

Take charge of your life, give thanks for what you have today, what you've had, and for the opportunity to turn this new corner, painful tho it is.

Everybody loses partners. Much more than half of our country is female and they live 10 years longer than men.

Reach outside your family and other usual connections.

Give thanks.

There is nothing more pain full then the loss of a loved one.I didn't think I would ever get over the pain when my son died ,but after time I started getting back in to some of the things we did together.Getting on with your life will be hard but in time I hope life for you will be less pain full. Keeping you in my prayers.

So sorry for your loss! May you find the peace that surpasses all understanding. Prayers sent from WV!

Very sorry for your loss! God bless!

Really very sorry for your loss

Very sorry for your loss

Prayers sent.

My heart hurts for you my friend . God and time will heal wounds but the scar of love will always be there as it should . You will be together again and I believe that in my soul . I will pray for you !

So sorry for your loss

I’ve lost many I care about and love and there is nothing I or anyone else can say to make it better

They would want you to push on and live your life till you can be reunited with them

So please eat and find the strength to carrry on ....make them proud

It hurts my heart to even contemplate your pain. The love of a good wife is second only to the love of the good Savior.

With the utmost respect you have my deepest condolences. The advise given above is true and from the heart, it was inspiring to read. May it help you in the next chapter of your life. She will always be with you and is waiting for you. I truly believe that. May God Bless you. Matthew

Wow, posted on the picture of your hip quiver just before seeing this Thread......So very sorry for your loss. Prayers sent...

So Very sorry for your. I can not imagine the pain you are in.A good friend lost his wife he said the best thing for his was to be with his kids and grandkids and his friends every minute possible

Gary, I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Praying that you are comforted by God in the ways only He can provide. TK

God be with her and you!

Sorry, I just got to read this. I am so sorry for your loss of your loving wife. you are in my prayers. jeff

Gary, I know what you're going through I lost my soul mate a year and a half ago. We were married for almost 58 years and not a day goes by that I don't think of her and miss her.

I have two son's and a daughter, part of her is in them and I rely heavily on them for support. It's hard to take on all of the legal burden you have to deal with by yourself, you need family and friends to help you get through this tough period.

My wife was my rock, she had a quiet strength that I leaned on throughout our marriage. I use to call her the railing on my balance beam. whenever we experienced tough times she use to say, "this too shall pass"

My condolences sir.

Prayers for you. There is light in all the darkness you are seeing right now. There is likely people in your area that you can talk to that might be able to help you with the things that you are suddenly faced with. Ask God to lead you through this maze. He is faithful to help those that ask, in faith. It might not happen as quickly as you think it should, but His help is sure and correct...even amazing. Ask Him for help and patiently watch what happens. Best to you and sorry for your loss.

That is a tough pill. Sorry for your massive loss. Time heals all wounds and helps. Persevere my friend. You are in my prayers.

Sad news. Praying for healing for you and family left behind.

I hope you find peace and strength.

It takes time for wounds like this to heal. Hang in there...things will get better!

Gary, I can offer no words which adequately express how grieved for you I am. I have not been in your exact situation but I know I would be devastated as are you. Time does not heal all, but with time things will get better for you. I can ask you to place your trust in God. I truly believe in the power of prayer. If you speak to God, he will listen. You may not hear him speak back to you immediately, but in time you will understand his response. Hang in there buddy. We are all pulling for you.

Jesus said cast all you burden upon me, for my yoke is easy and my load is light. I'm praying you turn to Him. He has all the answers in his word. Go to Him for the strength you so disparately need. I'll be praying for you.

Gary, in the quiet times of your day think of the good times the two of you had and be grateful for the memories, As long as you have the memories she never really dies.

It may bring tears at times but that releases the grief inside of you and that's a good thing...you have to grieve. The hurt never totally goes away but it will get better in time.

Sorry for your loss. Fight the urge to detach from life. Get out and do something... anything.. My prayers go out to you

AS I read and reread this thread I do so through crying eyes and lifted spirits.Just to know that the time and support from the good folks on the wall is truly evident to me that God speaks through all good men and women and directly to me.For that I'm Blessed beyond what I thought was possible. God Bless all. Gary

I’m not sure what it’s like to lose your best friend. But maybe this will help you out. Psalms 34:18 “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit”

Put it in God’s hands. Praying for things to get better for you!

Get connected with a good grief counselor!

Prayers sent..! Hang in there brother, it will get better with time, to deal with ...had similar experience.. all will pass eventually and we will reunite with our loved one's when Christ sets things right once and for all...Amen!

Doug

Deepest sympathy Gary. Stay strong

Deno

Gary, I hope you are feeling a bit more uplifted by seeing how much support you have here. I hope it has helped eased the pain and loneliness even if only a bit. You will never be without your wife in spirit, and I believe someday you'll be reunited again. I know how so many words of support from people here have helped me recently. I am still praying you find comfort in your memories. May God console you and Jesus protect you until you both meet again in the everlasting life... Amen.

We're your friend Gary ... we're here if you need us .. all you have to do is ask.

The pain and grief you're feeling now will pass with time and will be replaced by smiles and beautiful memories of the woman you loved

"To those I leave behind when I go: Death is nothing at all. It does not really count. I have merely slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains as it was. I am me, you are you, and the life we lived together is untouched and unchanged. Whatever we were to each other we still are. Call me by my old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way you always did. Put no difference in your tone. Wear no forced air of sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me—a little. Let my name be the household word it always was. Let it be spoken without effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it has ever meant, the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is death but an unavoidable incident? Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am but waiting for you—very near—just around he corner."

Sorry for your Loss, be strong and things will slowly get better over time. You are in my prayers.

I am sorry for your loss!! MY wife passed on 4 years ago unexpectedly. She also took care of our house hold. It was a nightmare. Nights and weekends were very hard. You just have to work through it. Family helps, you need a good support group Friends, church, family, maybe even counseling will help. God bless!!! Rodney

I'm very sorry for your loss. Prayers sent from Buffalo,NY..DaveP

So sorry or your loss. I have no words.. as I cannot imagine losing my soul mate. Friends, family, God....bowhunt or stump shoot and talk to the lord while your walking through the woods....ask for strength and focus. Above all....Stay away from booze and other things that are negatives.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences.

I can only imagine what you've been going through. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

My wife and I have been together for 46 years. Time seems to go by very quickly now and we realize that our time together is limited.

The good people of Leatherwall have offered sound advice.

I've been avoiding this thread because I simply don't have the words...

Just know that we're all wishing you well and hoping you can find some peace in this awful time. My heart goes out to you.

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