September 8 2014 my only son crashed his atv and suffered a traumatic brain injury a bad one he beathes on his one thats about it. My wife quit her job to take care of him. I work a split shift two days and two nights. No matter what I do its not enough. I am watching a 20 year relationship going down the drain. I have ask God for help to no availe. In my opinion my son I raised in the outdoors died that horrible day. He was an avid archer and hunter. I was at work when I received that call that no parent should get. Yes he had the best helmet money could buy. I struggle day buy day and its getting harder every day and honestly I am ready to through in the towel any advice is welcome. Thank you Matt Ewing

Matt sorry to hear about your tragedy life is not always fare. but I do know your family needs you more now then ever before. If your son can understand are want anything I am sure its your love for him. and your wife is there every day day In and out I am sure it has destroyed her inside, she has took on the toughest job in life. so I am sure she needs your help more than you know. You need to be there for her she a tough and loving women to do this every day. Do you have any pastors or rev come and see and talk to use at the house. if not call one it can help I know I had to. also reach out for some consoling and a marriage consolers could help with your relation ship. also see your doctor talk to him how you really feel my wife had big problems when her mother past two year later she still take anti depressant and nothing wrong with that it helps a bunch. best of wishes to you I will pray for you. ever need to talk pm me I give you a call.

Very sorry to hear what you're going thru. Don't ever give up. Faith precedes the miracle. Keep praying for your son. I'll do the same.

I can only imagine what you're going through. When it's your children that are hurt it's devastating to a parent. But it sounds like your son loved you very much. No matter what is ahead, your son and you're wife are going to need your strength. Trust in God to give you that strength. Sometimes faith is all we have. I will be praying for you, your son and wife.

keep praying he does things on his time

Matt, If your medical insurance allows it, you should look into seeking some Hospice help to have someone come into your home to help your wife with the care of your son. My heart breaks for you all. Don't give up, it's probably the worse thing you can do. have you thought about some counseling to help with the depression? If there are other children in the house include them as much as you can in your daily life. they are suffering too. I've been my wife's caregiver for the last 8 years and there is always something positive to find. Just hang in there. Find someone close to talk to. I'm praying for you. Lance.

I am sorry, I can only imagine what you are going through. I lost my 20 yr. old son in an auto accident in August 1999. I thought my life was over. With the grace of God I have been able to continue and actually enjoy the gifts God has given me. As you feel those feelings of loss and despair ask yourself if that is how your son would have you handle it. That has helped me and still helps me. I hope it will help you. I pray to see my son again when this is over and think of him every day. As said earlier never give up, faith precedes the miracle. I am living proof of that. You and Family are in my prayers

At least he is still breathing. Miracles can and do happen . And I pray your family receives one. I lost my son at the age of 13 to leukemia. It was hard and still is . I just dwell on all the good memories now. Wish you the best.

I lost my only child,my son.Seek professional advice as a couple whether it be faith based or secular.Communicate.

I alway think of the foot prints in the sand when times are hard for me. I have had a bad temper for years to the point where i would brake thing get in fight with people. My life changing point is my wife an my kids I will give it all up any day of the the week to keep them. Just remember you still have it all. Its just a little different now. You will get through it just takes time on your knees and a hole lot praying. There always some gravel be for the pavement. God bless.

My mom had to quit work to take care of my br9ther in 2009 due to the down spiral of muscular distrophy and has been home with him since. They have a nurse that comes in once a week to check on things and to pick on my brother which breaks the monotony of the situation a lil. Not sure of state laws, but my mom recieves funds from the state to help offset the financial burden of things. Home health care is something your wife needs to check into. There are programs out there for these situations. You and your wife love you son and will do what you feel best, but if help is available for your sons care please take it. You and your wife need a break, mentally. As bad as your sons situation is, yall have to take care of yourselves also.

Praying for you and your family Matt. Be strong and keep the faith.

Seek help. Continue to pray. Good luck.

God doesn't always fix what's wrong in your life but he can help you get through it. I'm so sorry that this happened to your son, I would be devastated.

Keep the faith!

Mother always used to say "This to will pass". Time heels everything Good luck God bless

I'm so sorry for the pain your family is going through. When I am feeling hopeless, the only thing that helps is to talk to someone about it. If your situation allows, professional counselling would probably help a lot. You're not alone. Keep waking up in the morning and find one positive thing that will move you forward. I know you still have hope or you wouldn't have written this. That's good. You're in our prayers.

I won't pretend I could cope with your situation. I'm sure I would fail miserably. No parent should out live their children or endure such a deviating and unfair fortune of fate. It's ok to question your own strength. That is your humanity. You do the best you can with the grief and you be the best man you can be for now. Pray for your wife, for your son and for yourself. I pray I'm never challenged in this magnitude. God bless you in this trial.

Thanks guys ! He is our only child and she gets payed buy the state to take care of him. She wont leave the house witch is a lot of the problem. It been almost two years stats are not good for further recovery. I will keep my faith. My house went from a wonderful hope to a nursing facility. Just hard to take some times. Thank you for listening. Matt Ewing.

Matt; very sorry for what your going threw. When you have time; read the book of Job. It is a very powerful and motivating book. When you place your faith in Jesus all things are possible. Please don't give up. Be strong for your wife and son. Ask God to give you faith, physical strength and mental strength. Try to increase your prayer time. I will start praying for you and your family. Also another great verse that always helps me is Psalms 139. Read it slowly and really ponder on what is being said. God bles you. Stay strong.

Good advice Matt I read that in the hospital

...I wish I could add something more than prayer. You and your family are in my prayers.

Thank you to every one expecily the ones that have lost their child. I know how it feels and I am truly sorry for you loss.

I should also ad he was14 when this happend. Hes about to turn 16 in a few months.

Its funny you say test I have felt that all along! Thank you for sharing.

You and your wife still have love. For your boy and for each other....tragedy like this strains all to near breaking point.....thoughts are with you. Jon hancock

I can't imagine what you are going through and my heart breaks hearing such tragedy. God bless you and your family. Don't throw in the towel! What would your son want for you and your wife? I will pray for you. Please try and stay strong and love your wife with everything you've got.

It's hard to look at a situation like this and find the good in it. A mother who loves her son so much she's giving up her own life to care for him. A family being challenged to rely on each other for support and love. A father and husband dedicated to doing the best and right things for his family. An opportunity to strengthen one's faith in a universal power for good.

Matt...sincere sympathy to you and your wife for the struggles, and to your son who is obviously facing a life-altering fight to recover. I have no ability to feel what that's like exactly, but I do understand how you could lose the joy of just waking up and living each day. I hope you and your wife can find that joy somewhere ahead.

As has been suggested, sometimes the struggle overrides everything else in life and then you're in a mental bunker. You both owe it to yourselves and your son to climb out and go get some sunshine. Happiness isn't illegal or immoral, but sometimes you have to go seek it. Balance is important.

Matt, Bigdog's got'er right. Seems like no one'e listening sometimes, but don't you believe it. A good pastor can steer you forward, especially when there are two paths and a lot of fog on that road.

Keep up with his word also, but never stop praising him. We all got our ways of praising and talking to him. I listen to country gospel you tubes all the time and that helps. When you ask for an answer, it won't come in black and white, but often from within ourselves long after we just stop and listen. Sometimes our gift is just strength itself, which maybe one of the greatest gifts we can receive. Praying and Praising - that's the best flashlight I know.

The Kendall's made a gospel album before the father Royce passed on. On one of their songs they sing about a preacher on his death bed after the doctor said he's done all he can. The man told his family "If he makes me whole again or takes me home instead, one way or another - I'll rise up from this bed".

Asking for some help in his name to come down your road too.

Babbling Bob

As Dad/husband, you are there every day to do what you can. God is there to do what you cannot. Love is a commitment, and God loves you.

I will keep you all in my prayers.

Matt, Lots of great advice here.

Two things that I read that I heartily recommend. 1) Find a good counselor. This will greatly benefit both of you. 2) Don't go it alone. Humans are pack animals. Find a good church, a support group, hunting buddies, something. Being able to rant, vent, share resources, is invaluable.

I'm sorry for your circumstances, but God is great, all the time. Blessings will flow, even in what you're going through.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Ralph

Matt, you and your family have my prayers that you all stay together and be there for each other. I can't even imagine because neither my wife nor I ever had any children in past relationships or together, but I do know that the best thing for your son and your wife is for you to remain strong and there for them when it seems impossible to do so in the toughest of trials. All you have is each other, and to lose one more part of your little unit would be so much more devastating to them. There is so much good advice from others here, and as I read these I can't believe how fortunate I am to have gone through life without such difficulties as I am seeing other Wallers have been through. So I can't offer much more than advice from a believer. Love is the greatest gift, and you know God is Love, He gives it freely, and his only wish is you pass it on to them every day. I am sure it doesn't always seem like God gave you his love when this tragedy happened, but we don't know God's plan, we just have to trust in him. I pray this helps you all, and you all find peace and joy in the long run.

Sending prayers, hang in there brother. Gnombre

No words of wisdom, as Im not in your shoes. Advise: Dont give up!

We will never understand why things happen, they just do. Those that goes thru the most trying times I believe will be rewarded the most. Hang in there! Lot of people on here that will offer the support you need. Maybe some close enough to help. Dont be afraid to PM Talking can help.

Matt I have prayed for you and will continue to do so. I know how it feels to wonder why things are happening to you. My wife and I are born again Christians who love Christ and are members of a wonderful local church. Within the last year, we have suffered through our youngest sons wife cheating on him, leaving him and a subsequent divorce. My mama, who I love dearly, fell in June and suffered a traumatic brain injury from which she recovered, thanks be to God! In October, my sweet wife of 30 years was diagnosed with breast cancer. She underwent surgery in December, and is now in the middle of a very aggressive chemo regimen. As a Christian, I had to ask God, why! I have studied my Bible and what it has to say about suffering particuarly in the New Testament and I have learned that suffering is a normal part of the Christian life. Don't give up Matt! Your wife and son need you and they need your prayers. Heck, I need your prayers !

I have learned that rather than ask God why ask Him what, as in "God, what is it You want me to see or learn. If you are a Christian, God's purpose in suffering is to make you like Christ. All any of us can do is trust Him. Will not the God Who gave His own Son to save sinful men ALWAYS do what is right ? I have to believe He will.

This verse has brought me great comfort in the last year during my own trials

Isaiah 26:3 Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on Thee, because he trusts Thee.

Pray for me Matt as I pray for you.

I will pray for you and your family

Tears and prayers my friend....that all I have. Just focus on doing your best today... and the do it again tommorro.

PRAYERS TO YOU

I pray for you and your family. I pray that you find Gods purpose in this.

Remember, the Bible tells us that "as high as the heavens are above the earth, so are His ways higher than our ways and His thoughts higher than our thoughts"

We may not understand what he's doing, that's not for us to do, Keep praying, with prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to Him. He is listening.

Prayers for you and your family.

Hey Matt, We're praying, and most importantly, The Father is listening. God Bless, Martin (Phil.4:13)

Prayin

Praying

I can only try to imagine what you're going through, I don't think anything here can be said to ease your pain and sense of loss, all we can do is offer prayers and support and hope that by you sharing this with us you and your wife somehow draw some hope and strenght.

I'm so sorry for you and your family Matt, god bless you all!

I'm sorry Matt and I send my prayers to you and your family and hope things get better for you. As others have said, definitely seek some type of professional help/counseling for you and your wife, even if you have to get home visits at this point. Anything would help, therapist, pastor, etc. Good luck and continued prayers.

Matt, I am praying for you and my prayers will continue. Please seek some help. George

I can't say I understand what you are going through, but I can say that I will pray for you and your family.

Praying for you and your family Matt. God bless and keep you strong in your faith in Him.

Matt I'm very sorry. Matt you need real help immediately. My advice is to immediately get counseling from a suicide hot line. Set an appointment today with your family doctor. Talk with any available family. Your clergyman has very likely dealt with this before, so call him, he is there specifically for you. Aside from immediate help, get some exercise. Go for a fast walk. Exercise will help pull you out of the funk mindset.

Get help immediately Matt. No matter how bad things seem life is worth all the hardship. You can get through this Matt. Your family needs you Matt.

I don't have any advice to give but will say my prayers and those of others will continue even when you may not feel up to it.

Matt, very sad to hear this. I've had some bumps in the road but nothing like what your going through. At one time I was totally against counseling, seemed more like a money maker. Then we were referred to another one, a little farther drive and a little more money. We went as a family and he for ever changed our life. A good psychologist can do wonders for both of you. Keep the faith and I'll be praying. Jeff

Matt , so sorry for your sons accident, I can't imagine having to go through that. I will say that we all get tested and all I can say is to keep the faith and never give up. As others have mentioned, seek some counseling for you and your wife, it always helps to talk with others. Will keep all three of you in my prayers.

Matt, years ago, when I lost my father, the most helpful, comforting words I heard from a friend were, "I understand." As you can see, there are many thoughtful, "understanding" LW'ers. Thank you, for your trust and reaching out to the LW. You, your wife and son are in and will continue to be in my prayers. In Him there is strength. Bible reading, counseling and reaching out to others will provide you with positive, productive help during this unfortunate journey. Miracles happen. Believe it!

+1 Bob Rowlands. All of it. I recall reading a very similar sounding post a bit more than a year ago and it led down a VERY rocky path for a good man who had no business going there.

I'm posting most of this for folks other than Matt...

You wouldn't ask the school nurse about a life-threatening medical condition, and Depression is exactly that. Ministers - bless them all - are 99% incredibly good-hearted people, but this is out of their league and if you do find a Minister who thinks he/she can handle problems like this, Run For Your Life to one who will steer you to a specialist or a Crisis center.

Or call the Crisis Line direct. Right Now Today. Do exactly what you would tell your brother, sister, wife or best friend to do if they were feeling the way you're feeling. Prayers and encouragement never hurt anybody, but there is some god-awful heavy lifting to be done here and it is just plain bad judgment to attempt it unaided.

And just to be clear... The world provides trials enough on its own just as the natural consequences of Man's Free Will, the "laws" of physics/thermodynamics and the biological processes which make it possible for life to be self-sustaining.

God does not test us; He is there to bring us through and bring good out of whatever has befallen us.

You are in our prayers my friend.

Don't give up, Prayer sent.

Don't give up, Prayer sent.

My heart goes out to you brother. I wish I had some wonderful words of comfort for you but all I know is that sometimes we are called to go through very tough times and we don't know why, but this I know: God never fails us if we will just place our trust in him. The road may be rough and the timing now what we want but he will always carry us through. His word promises us that he will never place a burden on us that we are not able to bare. I am praying for you and your family.

Matt, Of course I don't know you or you son. But, I'll bet he is a fighter, determined, and loves you and his Mother very much. You continue to be his role model.

Prayer works because He said it would and so many of us have witnessed it. He is working in the lives of believers and sometimes, if we look for Him, we can see His hand.

He had a very revealing interaction with me in the spring of 2007. I won't go into the details here but it involved a dream and something "said" to me that cannot be explained. I awoke, did a very simple thing He told me to do, and if possible, my belief was amplified beyond measure. (He referred me to a book in the old testament that I didn't know existed.)

I sometimes am ashamed that He felt I needed the reassurance but I share this with as many as I can because I believe I'm supposed to. I share it here because maybe that was part of His plan 9 years ago.

Prayers Matt! Do not give up, refuse to be negative and try your best to turn the negatives into positives....I know that seems crazy with what you are dealing with but you can make positives in your life and others from this. Don't let this test break you!

Rick

Matt, just don't give up. God answers ours prayers. It may not be in our time or our the way we want but it is in the way that is best for us. Praying for you and your family.

What I wanted to say has been said.

I can only imagine how difficult it is, but do your best to follow some of the well intentioned advice above... those things that you have not already tried... bits at a time if you must.

Try doing a little something everyday - no matter how small it may seem.

I join the others in prayer for you and your family.

Prayers from NY

Our prayers are with you,,,, Mike and Michelle.

Matt, Nothing any of us can say will ever convey our sympathies to you and your family. We are not able to know the torture you are all going through. Obviously, this is easier said than done, but pray with all your heart and soul for this episode to have a miracle outcome. Your faith above all else is paramount for your son, your wife and yourself. Please do not give up faith or hope of a favorable outcome. You are stronger than you think and your other family, (The Leatherwallers), are here for you in whatever capacity you need us to be brother. May God richly Bless your son and your entire family. MTQUIVER

Matt, I use to work on a Heand and Spinal Chord Rehab unit. I do feel for you. You, Your wife also have to take care of yourselves to take care of your son. My suggestion is: 1)Look into Respit Care where you and your wife can take a break. 2)Find the book by Ann Kubler-Ross on Death and Dying (I believe you can find it through Amozon). Though your son IS NOT dead the emotions that you and your wife are going through are very similar to what this book talks about. It can help both of you understand the circle of emotions you keep going through. 3) My other suggestion is to seek Counseling whether through a professional Counselor or through your church, as a pair or as individuals. It is a way for you to vent your feeling and they can give you suggestions on ways to deal with your feelings. You mentioned you asked God for help, to no availe. God will help you, but sometimes he directs you/us to where, through is will, you/we can that find help. You have to be willing to see that the help you are asking for and are seeking, may not come in the ways you expect it to get it. HE is ALWAYS there with you. DANNY

That should be Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. DANNY

Thank you all!!! I am not looking for a pity party. Just needed to talk I guess and this is the only place I go. Thanks again friends.

Father please lift this family up and carry them through in Jesus Name Amen

One thing is for certain. I can't begin to tell you I have the ability to associate with what you and yours are facing. I can't even imagine it. For you or your wife. You both need to seek help. The kind where people listen. And the most important is Gods word. There are answers in it for every problem we face. The real answers.

Your wife is hurting just as bad as you are. Don't quit on her. And stay proactive in ensuring she doesn't quit on you. Pray. Keep the faith. I'll do the same for you all. God Bless

Such things put life in perspective: This is not all there is. God cares and sees the end from the beginning. All we see is now. It's sometimes almost impossible to bear. The reward is worth the work.

So sorry for your hardships. Praying that God will bring good from this too and grace and peace for you and your wife. Healing, if God would see that as best.

Matt. That's sad. The only thing I can say is Trust in Jesus.

Matt, I'll keep your family in my prayers. If you need to talk, this is the place. Never have I seen such a huge great family. Maybe you need to bring your wife to the wall! In all seriousness, thats how I try to get thru anything is with a laugh or smile. You'll get thru this brother. And we will help you.

Matt somewhere along the line I missed this but there is hope but sometimes to see it takes greater faith than the lack of hope causes you to see negatively. Its a natural thing to think and feel the way you do its the natural man way. It takes faith to belive in things that seem impossible and most times are.

God knows you and who you are and what you stand for as well as your depth of your struggles too. Thius is terrible and how would I handle it truthfully probably not much better really other than I know where to go to get help and to how to give my troubles to.

Many times I fight with God, question God and disobey God. I loss each time because of the natural man still in me. But when i get beat down I also know theres going to be a lift up coming through repentence.

Why do these terrible things happen? I don't know but they do. I have to willing to bet your stronger though not weaker. Stay with the things that you know are true and do your best to seek out the will of God, read, pray and trust even when it looks so bleack.

Lord this fellow needs your divine intervention and mercy and grace as well as his family. Please extend the wisdom and mercy to him.

Amen

Matt. Don't give in don't give up. Our God is listening and hears your prayers. Keep your faith, it will work out. Talk to your wife, she's hurting too,comfort and console each other. In hard times, it will make you both stronger and deepen your faith in God the father.

Praying for you and your family.

Hi Matt Praying for you: And I for one do know how you feel our "middle" daughter rolled our jeep and ended up paralyzed with only some use of her arms and one hand. She spent many many months in the hospital and really battled, Even though she was an adult it was a extremely hard time for the wife and I and, well, for the whole family. We did our best to take care of her, at home, but her needs were more than we could provide and it broke our hearts to have to leave our angel in a facility, but it had to be. We lost her a few years back. All I can say is that the hurt eventually turned to fond memories. Faith in God has really helped us to believe that this world is a test for the future of everlasting life, and out loved ones are simply ahead of us, in the process, and all of this is only TEMPORARY. My suggestion is to savor every moment that you can with your Son and wife. God Bless you Matt and I feel for you brother. Ed

Prayers sent.

Read all these posts. Got a lot of love coming your way from lots of bowbrothers

Yes thats why I opened up here! We dont always get along but what family does.

Matt, I will pray on it, although I have not had a tragedy like that, I have lost a brother-suicide, divorce, alimony, house sale, lost a job, all at once,last year, God never gives you more then you can handle, I try to smile and move forward everyday, adversity is difficult but it does make you stronger, I know my passions in life get me through it as well, hunting being one of them, keep plugging !

I can't even imagine what your family is going through, but I do know I can pray for you all and I am. God bless you and your family. PM me if you need/want to talk.

Not much more I can add that others haven't already stated. I will never understand why bad things happen to good people sometimes. While I could never put myself in your shoes I will say that many, many of us struggle or have struggled with grief and depression at some point of our lives. You are not alone that is for sure!

Let those around you who love you and care for you help you. Don't be afraid to ask for it if you need a hand or someone to talk to. I will pray for you and your family. May God Bless You!

Matt its not really about anything other than how bad your hurting and how much you need Gods help same as we all do. I have no idea how you could possibly get to the other side of this without God. That's the part that baffles me most when people flat out reject God. Jesus said forgive them farther for they know not what they do. Lord is well aware of the magnitude of pain and how its being handled and he is there to take your pain. Your not alone he will never leave you or forsake you. His own he protects and delivers from the depths of their sorrow. With that said its usually not overnight its has to grow us through it and that's the part that hurts even more and knowing it can create anger as well and resentment too. God knows all this and he is not slack and is currently working on you and in you as well as all who are involved.

Just know that there's as many if not more praying for you than who has responded. Prayer works and some times its some terrible seasons we have to go through to teach us things about ourselves as well as others. Try to remember that God loves you and your family. If it wasn't for evil in this world we would not have turmoil we would be in the garden and one day we will when we go home to be with our Lord. In this world we will have trouble but the place we hope to go has no more crying or things like this where you will be united with your son.

This is a rough hard season your traveling through but you will gain strength and wisdom allow it to change and sustain you. Don't give in and turn hateful or mean that's the easy way. The hard way is to submit your will to the only one who can take your pain from you and that's Jesus.

This is not our home we are just passing through and all things are temporal.

ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD FOR THOSE WHO LOVE THE LORD. WHAT EVIL MEANS FOR BAD. GOD MEANS FOR GOOD.

Lord I pray you give Matt strength and courage to follow you and give his fears and hurts to you so that you can take them and return his joy to him. He so needs this so that he can help his wife because she is the weaker vessel and needs him to be strong to help lift her up as well.

AMEN

Matt, Can't say anything that has not been already said. I will be praying for you and your family. Hang in there. LORD Bless.

Matt, I just got home from work. I see you have been talking here, and that is a good start, but I hope you ALSO consider setting an appointment and talk with a health care professional, person to person. Don't be embarassed, do it. If you again get to feeling you are at the end of your rope- please- call a suicide hot line. As well intentioned as we are here, we aren't mental health care professionals.

lIfe can be one tough mother, I been through some times so bad I didn't know if I could handle seeing my wife beside herself with heart wrenching grief, but we made it through. So can you, Matt.

The Lord is at work and you may not see any results yet but stay strong pray and you will see results.

Hang in there Matt!

Prayers sent.

I am praying for you and your family.

Catt I have in no way rejected God not sure where you got that! I read almost daily and talk to him. So sorry if you where miss lead.

Matt, sounds like classic depression, that would be normal but you need to find someone who could help. Your families life has been turned upside down, almost anyone would be overwhelmed. Time will help but don't give up on keeping the family together...

Remember the 23rd Psalm says "yea, though I walk THROUGH the valley".....It does not say IN the valley. To me that means that with His help we will get through to the other side. We won't always be in the valley.

Prayers from this house.

Matt, your love for your son and wife is clear even in your sorrow and trouble. I have to believe that your sons love of archery and hunting were in-stilled in him by you. You obviously love archery and hunting as well. Your son would want you to continue to enjoy the sport he so dearly loves, so that you can sit with him, hold his hand and describe in detail the experience that you enjoyed for him and you. He will hear you and so appreciate the stories you will relate. This will be a sort of healing for you and your son. You and your dear wife should sit down and plan some date-night time to rekindle your relationship. There is outside help available so that you both can have some respite - seek out such help so that you can work on your loving relationship. As others have said so resolutely, there is life even in tragedy with the Lord God in your life. Prayers from Colorado for your family, Matt.

Sorry to hear about your boy, Matt...I wish there were some words of wisdom to alleviate this awful situation your family is in. I can only offer prayers and encouragement so that you know you are not completely alone. If you haven't looked into getting some assistance with his care then definitely do that. Someone for you and your wife to talk to could also help and is worth a try. Don't give up, keep fighting and try to draw strength from each other and God. Prayers sent

I don't know what to say except that as long as you are here GOD has a plan for you. We don't know what that is but HE does. By all rights, I should have died several times. I can only think that HE brought me through it for a reason. Drive on.

Archery is the one thing I reach for whenever I'm struggling in life. Walking or hunting and stump shooting and just being in the woods with a bow is the one place I feel relaxed and at peace. I know you are strong enough to go on. And prayers sent my friend.

Very hard to admit we need help. That is step 1. You cannot help if you are frazzled. Step 2. Is getting yourself right. That means you have to lean on others. God, family and get some outside help...odd but others can see your situation from another perspective and will find answers to the nagging questions that bother you so deeply. For my part, I offer you and yours prayers for understanding and God's grace.

Matt , I know it's got to be rough. Give it to The Lord. All of it. " come to me those who are weary and I will give you rest". That's his word, man. His promise to you. You are not alone, you are never alone. Footprints in the sand- it's time to let Him tote you. Go get your wife and ask her to dinner and and a movie. You said it was slipping, ITS YOURS, TAKE IT BACK!! I'm just a S. GA. redneck, but I BELIEVE where two or more gather and agree and ask it in the name of the LORD, it shall be given. I pray for your happiness to return to you man. And I know it will.

Prayers from WA. Matt,please keep sharing as needed, it will help you.

Thanks for sharing here Matt. Not always easy to open up and talk about. Very sorry this happened to your son. It would be great if you could find someone to help out once in a while to get your wife out of the house. Glad you are keeping your faith in Jesus through it all

I think Cat meant that he cannot understand how other people (not you) that reject God get through a situation like this. I think people are right, you might be well served by talking to a trained professional about this. We all wish you the best, but most are not trained to to help people through something like this.

God Bless you and keep you.

how about you give us your friends phone numbers so we can call them and tell them this is when friends need show they are friends,, friends and family support and help is what is needed here so you two can be there for each other.

if anyone lives close they should be out there helping you out with the chores and their wives or girlfriends should be helping out by doing some cooking and cleaning and just being there for you guys.

All I know to say about your situation is that Love is the most powerful force in this world and the next. It's unstoppable and the love the Lord has for us is unmatched. It is said that we cannot even comprehend it's extant. I get so much peace of mind knowing that information it draws me to tears, and will lift me out of anything the world throws at me.

I cannot even begin to understand how you feel Matt, but the Lord knows!!! He knows and sees that you are remaining faithful. He WILL give you the strength you need! Stay strong brother and keep the faith. You will be in my prayers

Never thought that for one minute Matt I'd hate to think that. I was just saying I don't know how others can turn away and hope to do it on there own?

God help this situation and give them peace that surpasses all understanding. They call upon your name of Jesus. We ask you Lord for your healing hand upon Matt be placed comforting him and giving him grace.Help him to sort through it all and hope only in whats ahead not behind him that drags him down. Give him a renewed spirit and more faith in the things that are unseen. Give him the eyes to see and the ears to hear you and the wisdom to handle this as it comes to him that he don't understand. Restore this family please Lord. Thank you Lord for hearing the prayers and thoughts of many.

Amen

Praying for you and your family, and a miracle.

Brother continue to pray. Sometimes the answer is "not yet". The Lord says pray continually. Pray with your wife also. You are being lifted up by many here.

Brother here's another thing you probably do know though. If you don't force yourself to do things that's not good for the sikei either. If that occurs you can start to get physically sick as well then even more of a battle rages inside us all.

Lord help Matt and show him a miracle so he can see. Try to stay busy too as much as you can. I know when I am praying for others and helping others I don't think about myself and my own issues. If I don't do that then I will self contain that's not good for me.

I agree seek out a professional help. There is strength in acknowledging that which has no explaination, Life is a MF. We are here for you. Reach out, "no man is an island, A piece of the whole a part of the main".

You are living a parents worst nightmare. Stay strong. It is good to share your thoughts and talk about it. There is always hope and don't give up on it. You and your wife both need each other to get through this. We are all praying for you and your family.

Probably, your wife needs your support more than you know. Meaning emotional support. When you give it, the giving will be better for you than her receiving it. And if you can see a way for the tragedy to give you knowledge or insight to pass on to others in need or to prevent them from making a mistake or being overwhelmed by unforeseen circumstances that are terrible to deal with then this giving will be an inspiration from your son to you to them.

prayers sent,

Matts story for those that forgot are never read before. and what he is saying when things are at there worst. never stop believing. so sorry Matt.

So sorry to hear of all your hardships. You are in my prayers. You are depressed and need some professional help. don't be afraid to pursue it. God Bless you and I pray that things will get better.

Ron

Hold on Matt. I know you can and have gone through more than anybody should ever have to deal with. Text or call you have my number buddy. JF

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Give thanks whenever you can. No matter your loss and grief, give thanks. It's up to each of us to remember why we owe thanks.

I am praying for you an your family. Im at a loss for words. Just leave it with the Lord.

Matt brother this is sad news for sure but if he was a believer he is with the Lord and in this world that's the best. Lord knows all about our struggles and just what we face that's a real burden for each of us.

Not sure how I would do handling anything like you have I can only speculate. We are to laugh and cry with each other and we do cry with you and I know I am not speaking for myself.

Lord please lift up Matt and heal his pain and give give courage and rest and as much strength as he needs so he can help others from all his experiences. We ask you to soften the sting of this for Matt and lift him up and carry him through this we ask this in your name Jesus.

Amen

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Matt prayers for you and your family.your son is no longer suffering and I pray you and your wife can get through this together. I lost my 10 year old grandson last year in a car wreck and it was my baby girls baby boy. I feel your pain God Bless

I certainly don’t have any words that can help. What’s to be said when anyone experiences a parent’s worst nightmare. Who could fault you for your feelings? A man told me years ago that all things would be accomplished thru time, patience and perseverance.

I’m sure most of us feel helpless, but wish only best for you and yours. Hopefully and prayerfully, God will provide and fill you with peace, comfort, understanding and hope.

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